Are You a Workaholic or Just Too Scared to Stop Running ?
Are you currently battling with effectively balancing your family and business life? Are you working when you should be with your family? Maybe you are struggling with changes to your business and family life balance?
Maybe you lay awake at night “freaking out” from nightmares about what may
happen to your business if you don’t go into the office on Saturday?
Do you
break out in a sweat whenever a friend simply raises the subject that perhaps,
you should consider changing your work pattern? Or, perhaps your partner makes
plans to go out to dinner and a show, but you are always too late at work?
If the above
describes you, you just might have a problem that needs to be addressed.
There are 2 very different drivers behind these behaviors:
1)
The Workaholic
2) The Just Too Scared to Stop Running
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| Workaholic: A person who compulsively works excessively hard and long hours |
Firstly, what is a workaholic?
The definition – “A person who
compulsively works excessively hard and long hours”. How do you know if you are a workaholic? Basically, you are working compulsively. You take your business phone on your dinner date, and check it every 10
minutes. Your mind is always on your
business. It’s all you talk about - you LOVE to talk about your business and
work to anyone who will listen. You love your business, sometimes it seems you
love it more than anyone or anything else.
But the real key,
the rest of your life is consistently taking second fiddle to your business.
Secondly, there is the person who is just too scared to stop running. What does this mean? Like a little
mouse on a treadmill, you feel like you can’t stop doing what you are doing.
This is a fear driven behavior. You are the driver in the business, it is your
brainchild. There are many people relying on you to do what you do. Not only is
your whole family relying on you to bring home the bacon, your staff and their
families are relying on you too! Not to mention, your staff could make huge
mistakes which you will end up paying for, if you are not there to give them
guidance. All your clients rely on you to make them happy. Actually, your staff
also relies on you to make the happy. Now that you mention it, your whole
family relies on you to make them happy as well.
You feel that if
you stop your business, the whole world will totally implode.
For the pressures on your time to change, you do need to accept that
change is the answer to releasing that pressure. If you don’t really want it to
change, then it won’t. Your reality is your reality, and your personal habits
are only habits. They do have value to you, work can be an escape from home. It
you are too fearful to accept the need for change, then it will never
eventuate. To get the balance right, you have to look at what is holding you
back.
The Workaholic is
addicted to buzz of the business. If you have become engulfed in the adrenaline
buzz of making it happen. Everything in your life plays second fiddle. This
could be you?
The Just Too
Scared to Stop Running is driven by a fear of failure. If you can’t
sleep at night because you are terrified your business world will implode if
you take a day off. Do you feel like a slave to the business? Are you hiding
behind the “work” can be easier than dealing with the real issues on are
scarier?
How do you deal with either issue?
- Either way, decide where you want to head.
- Then put first things first.
- Focus on your long term goals, "What are you long term trying to achieve?"
- Decide to change what needs to change.
- Then just do it.
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| Decide on where you want to end up. Then just do it. |
The urgent daily demands will at times certainly be a distraction from the long direction. Stay true to your path and direct yourself back towards your goals.
Stop the free fall and decide to stick to your program. You will magically end up where you want to be. Always remember to not give yourself too hard a time if you wonder of the course every now and then.
Keep the true balance of family and business life in an unbalanced world is certainly a challenge faced by many. It takes commitment to make it happen. When you get it right the rewards are truly inspiring. Always chase the dream and make it happen.
James and Co Business Strategists. We educate family business owners to make their business work for their family. Please follow to learn more. Robert James@JamesFranchises
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